Decisions, Decisions, Decisions
The
inability to make a decision was very strong in my personality prior to
recovery and self-discovery in CoDA. One perfect example of this came one day
when my sister and I were trying to decide what to do with this perfectly
beautiful sunshiny day. We debated back and forth on the best way to use the
time. We ended up using the whole day trying to make a “perfect” decision. What
a waste!
Thinking
others could make better decisions or thinking I had to make the perfect
decision was debilitating. With my marriage partner, I acquiesced on most
decisions. What movie to watch, where to go for dinner, even our wedding where
my husband did most of the planning (with my approval). There were a few
exceptions … where my core values would be threatened if I compromised.
Thank
God those days are over! After so many years of giving control to my husband,
it’s a bit hard now for us to work in partnership, but we are progressing in
that as well. Setting boundaries, learning to lovingly say “no”. Little by
little, day by day this life journey is getting better. Thank you for all the
lessons learned in CoDA recovery.
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